A hoarder is clearly defined as a person who accumulates large stockpiles of stuff in their home. It can grow to be so overwhelming that the people living in the house barely exist. But hoarding tends to be about more than just bad housekeeping and a cluttered home; it often signifies the state of mind and tangled emotions that are going on within the mind and soul of a person.
Hoarding usually starts in a closet, basement or spare room until it eventually takes over every single room of the house. As the mounds of useless items continue to climb toward the ceiling, the home becomes less of a place of comfort and renewal, and more of a space full of trash and distress. The piles of worthless “stuff” grow larger, and each room, one by one, ceases to function. Much is similar with the way our minds work. When we allow ourselves to accumulate so much rubbish within our psyche, negative charges in our spirit and soul, sooner or later, begin to overflow in excess.
For some, collecting is an art; while others like to travel a little bit lighter. Most often, hoarding occurs when we lose a loved one, or were trying to fill a void, or were simply holding on to things, people, or places that have no position in our lives and serve absolutely no purpose for our clear and affirmative journey ahead. On occasion we let our spiritual spaces get clogged up with debris, clutter and even emotional toxins that we lose sight of what is most essential. The soul is a sacred place where we should keep clear of those mountains of “stuff.” We need clarity – not clutter – in our psychological and physical abode. The intervention phase for a hoarder is always a challenge one. Confronting the issue of “hoarding”, just as other interventions of addiction such as drugs and alcohol, is an objective that can only be addressed by the hoarder themselves. It is a condition where the hoarder usually has to first hit rock bottom before they can change, and a process of deliberate pro-activeness in which they must employ in order to change it.
So I ask, “How heavy is your load this time around?” “What will you rid of in order to make space for more optimistic and abundant accommodations?” In just a few days, your new residence won’t be a physical home or piece of property – it will be the “renovated” soul of who you are. Your inner home is your haven; it is your place for relaxing, relating, and releasing. An enduring effort should be made to keep it orderly, not only because you should, but because your mental standpoint becomes transparent in your physical setting(s). What is in your head, what you see and how you see it, will often influence your resolution, your pace, and your progress. If your internal home is cluttered with pessimism, misery, chaos, and isolation, then your external surroundings will exhibit just that.
It’s time to get rid of your sitting room furniture. Give it away. Clear some space. Hang a trapeze from your ceiling. Put a ladder up on your wall. Why not go the whole nine yards and take out the staircase; replace it with a pole that you can shimmy up and slide down! Not only will this keep you physically fit, it will also provide you with more leverage and mental clarity moving ahead. Believe it or not, what you haven’t got, you don’t need. Unless that is, what you haven’t got is a reliable understanding of what it is you truly require. This is all the more reason to prioritize the quest for wisdom and insight.
This season, while you are putting away your holiday décor and getting your spaces back in order, you should be clearing some space as well, to receive the New Year with clarity, intention, fortitude, and a sense of commitment. As you venture into 2011, try the “take it or leave it” approach. It always works for me! Take what you need from 2010 – and clearly leave the rest.
Love for your Tuesday. HAPPY NEW YEAR ahead!