Do we get wiser as we get older? That has never been written anywhere in stone, nor is it inevitable. One thing is for sure, though, we don’t get older as we grow wiser. Undeniably, the more we learn about life, the more we realize that if there isn’t any room for enjoyment within it, there is something seriously unwise about all that we are doing.
Creating and preserving contentment should be at the very top of the priority list. Everyone wants true happiness and stability in his or her life. In understanding that we ourselves are at the very core of that reality, we also understand that we are the common denominator that creates the balance. A big part of that balance begins with our emotions. Our emotions are very important to us; they can be both positive and negative. Emotions are the responses we make to the situations around us, whether those responses are an accurate interpretation or not; but our emotions alone are not enough. Enhancing ourselves in all areas of life including education, intelligence, wisdom, organization, and positive energy, are all things that help us sustain a well-rounded life.
Stability requires wisdom and wisdom requires understanding and understanding requires maturity – whether we are 20 or 200. Regardless of age, understanding choices that will increase knowledge and happiness is indeed a stage of maturity. Emotional maturity is our ability to control our emotions and recognize the things in life that we can change, and the things we cannot change, and steer clear of investing too much time in the things or people that bring us grief. Developing the ability to adapt to change, regardless of how unpleasant it may feel, keep emotions in tack, and deal with reality in a constructive manner, helps one to face truth rather than deny it. Here is where the maturity of wisdom resides. Wisdom provides us the ability to perceive and understand ourselves and others thoughts and actions. When this element is lost, we are lost. Finding our way back can be our greatest challenge.
Take a deep breath and look around you. Emotional stability does not mean that you should please and/or meet the expectations of others in an effort to making them content. In fact, people pleasers often get the shortest end of the bargain because they themselves have not yet mastered how to control their own feelings and emotions to gain the things in life that make them happy alone. Wisdom allows us to see this; and whereas wisdom is being acquired – happiness is presenting itself as a choice. Even the wisest person understands that the best choices are not always the easiest or most comfortable at the time, but in the end they turn out to be the most beneficial.
As the years pass by, with wisdom, we discover the need for having staying power; psychologically, physiologically, spiritually, and emotionally. But as we grow older – we are also growing younger, stronger, and more able to identify life’s true priorities. Maintaining a healthy emotional life is a true priority and the best kind of stability one can have. By remaining steadfast in your pursuit for sound emotional health and happiness, you not only give yourself the kind of stability that you so desire, but so deserve.
[This commentary is a repost of April 5, 2011.]
Love for your Tuesday. Be emotionally wise this week. Happy Easter all.